Valentine’s Day Without the BS: How to Make It Work for YOU
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Be honest… how do you really feel about Valentine’s Day? 🧐
Is it a day you look forward to with heart eyes and cute little chocolates? Or does it feel like a relationship report card that you never actually signed up for? Maybe it’s just another Tuesday with a side of overpriced roses and a whole lot of pressure.
No matter how you feel about February 14th, one thing’s for sure—it tends to magnify whatever’s going on in your love life. If you’re single, it might scream YOU’RE ALONE in flashing lights. If you’re in a relationship, it can be a reminder that things aren’t as romantic as you’d like. And if you’re in a situationship… well, do you even know if you’re supposed to celebrate?
But here’s the deal—Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be any of that. It can actually be a day that feels good if you approach it the right way. Let’s break it down.
Step 1: Flip the Script on Valentine’s Day
First things first, we need to stop treating Valentine’s Day like a test. You don’t pass just because you got a cute dinner reservation or a dozen roses. You don’t fail just because you’re spending it solo. It’s not a measurement of how lovable you are.
Instead, think of it as a day to celebrate love in all its forms—romantic, platonic, self-love, you name it. The trick is making it about you, not just whatever Hallmark and Instagram say it should be.
Step 2: If You’re Single, Make It a Day for YOU
Some of my best Valentine’s Days happened when I was completely single. Why? Because I wasn’t waiting around for someone else to make me feel special.
💐 Buy yourself flowers (yes, like Miley Cyrus)
🎮 Grab that thing you’ve been eyeing—whether it’s a book, a new video game, or that cute pair of shoes
🍷 Have a self-care night with your favorite meal and a cozy movie
👯♀️ Plan a Galentine’s Day with your besties
Valentine’s Day isn’t just about romantic love. It’s about all love—including the love you have for yourself.
Step 3: If You’re in a Relationship, Stop Waiting for Mind-Reading Magic
Real talk—your partner cannot read your mind. If you want something special on Valentine’s Day, you have to say it.
Instead of sitting there hoping they’ll magically know what to do, try this:
“Hey babe! Valentine’s Day is kind of a big deal to me and I’d love to do something special. Can we plan a fun night together?”
That’s it. No passive-aggressive hints. No “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” mindset. Just clear, direct, and loving communication. Because you deserve to have your needs met—and there’s nothing wrong with asking for what you want.
And if your partner doesn’t love big fancy plans? Compromise! Maybe a cozy night in with pizza and a movie is just as good as a night out. It’s about what feels good for both of you.
Step 4: If You’re in a Situationship… Maybe It’s Time to Ask Some Questions
If you don’t even know if you should be expecting something on Valentine’s Day… that might be a sign that it’s time for a real talk.
Ask yourself:
❓ Are my needs actually being met in this connection?
❓ Am I feeling valued and respected?
❓ Do I feel secure in this dynamic, or am I constantly confused?
Valentine’s Day has a sneaky way of exposing relationship patterns—so if you’re feeling more anxiety than excitement, pay attention to that.
Why This Works: Creating Love Instead of Waiting for It
The real secret to making Valentine’s Day work for you? Stop waiting for love to just happen and start creating it.
That means:
💛 Filling your life with people who make you feel good
💛 Speaking up about what you need in relationships
💛 Choosing to celebrate love your way instead of society’s way
For years, I sat around waiting for someone else to show up and make me feel loved. And it sucked. Now, I create love in my life—through my friendships, my partner, and most importantly, the way I treat myself.
Final Thought: Make This Valentine’s Day About YOU
At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day isn’t a pass/fail test for your love life. It’s just a day. And you get to decide how it goes.
So this year, let’s make it about what actually matters—real, meaningful connection. Whether that’s with a partner, your friends, or just yourself, celebrate love in whatever way feels right for you.
And if you’re struggling with love, relationships, or communicating your needs? You don’t have to figure it out alone. The Relationship Reboot Program is here to help. Come join a group of women who get it and start building the relationships you deserve.
Now go celebrate yourself—because you are so worth it. 💛
