Dance of Attachment
Why Smart Women Do Dumb Shit in Relationships
and How to Break the Pattern
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It’s easy to feel like you’re the problem in love. But you’re not broken, you’re following an old script that was never written for the kind of connection you deserve.
Dance of Attachment is your step-by-step guide to finally breaking free from the patterns that keep you stuck. Through storytelling, science, and straight-up honesty, you’ll move from “Why do I always end up here?” to “I know exactly how to create the love I want.”
You are smart, capable, and successful…
So why are relationships so damn hard?
If love feels like you’re holding your breath instead of being held, you are not the problem, your attachment patterns are, and you can change them one step at a time. Dance of Attachment is your zero-shame, refreshingly honest guide to stop chasing and start creating the relationships you deserve.
With a mix of storytelling, science, and sass, Jenn Noble reveals how Attachment Theory influences the patterns you repeat, and the way you give and receive love. She walks you step by step through learning how to D.A.N.C.E. like no one’s leaving.
Inside you’ll learn new choreography to:
D iscover your Attachment Stance
A lleviate your wounds
N urture your needs
C ommunicate with confidence
E mbody Secure Attachment
Whether you are dating, married, in a situationship, or healing from heartbreak, this book is your permission slip to stop performing for approval and start leading with authenticity. If you’ve ever asked: Is it me? Is it them? Is Mercury in retrograde? You’ll have all the answers you need to finally feel safe, seen and secure in love.
This book gives you the clarity, tools, and confidence to understand your attachment patterns and finally create relationships that feel safe, secure, and lasting.
Stop Blaming Yourself.
Start Breaking the Pattern.
Praise for dance of attachment
“Of all the books on Attachment, this one is—by far—the most fun to read. Jenn offers a fresh, funny, relatable perspective on women’s relationships. The book brings Attachment Theory to life through the compelling metaphor of dance, weaving in stories of heartbreak and healing that are both instructive and empowering.”
~Dr. Jessie Stern, Psychologist, Professor, and Author of Beyond Difficult
“This book is pure fucking gold. It’s needed in the world because far too many of us are blindly going through life without realizing how our Attachment Styles are shaping and often sabotaging our relationships. For years, I thought I was just crazy, but Jenn shows it’s not madness, it’s patterns!”
~Cheryl Killilea, No-BS Divorce Coach and CEO of Changing Lanes Wellness
“I've studied attachment theory for decades. Before it was so popular. What's refreshing about Jenn's book is how she made something so complicated so easy to understand. Especially how she described the different "types" in a way that made it unique and fun. That your attachment style isn't a death sentence, but a doorway to love. That by understanding and loving yourself for who you are, you can embrace those parts of you that you've always thought you needed to supress. This is a book of hope with an easy to follow path. Highly recommended!”
~Bob Grant, PLC Author of The Woman Men Adore
“Jenn has a gift for making complex psychology feel approachable. Through the metaphor of dance, she explains Attachment Styles in a way that clicks immediately, because we all know what it’s like to move in rhythm (or out of step) with someone else. And just as we can recognize the patterns, steps, interactions, and reactions we have become accustomed to, we can also learn new ones that align to what we want more.”
~Vivian Meraki, Parenting Expert, Somatic Trauma-informed Coach, and Best-selling Author of Parenting Through Divorce
“As a therapist trained in trauma and Attachment, I still found so much value in this book. Jenn offers more than another self-help guide. She combines humor with rigor: grounding her insights in research while honoring the healing journey with grace. I found myself nodding, laughing, and feeling seen.”
~Nyle Biondi, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist and Attachment & Chronic Pain Specialist
“Reading this book was like having a one-on-one conversation with Jenn over a great glass of wine. It's equal parts laughter, honesty, and those lightbulb insights that make you feel seen in the best way. She takes the science of attachment and translates it into real talk you’ll actually remember. Dance of Attachment goes beyond just explaining the patterns we get stuck in and shows you how to change them with humor, hope, and heart.”
~Julee Sung, Career Coach and Author of Thrive and SHINE
“This book will absolutely change the way you see yourself and how you show up in relationships. I’ve broken so many patterns I didn’t even realize I had and gained so much confidence in who I am because of Jenn. This book is monumentally life-changing! A must-read for anyone who communicates with and relates to other humans, so basically everyone!”
~Jordan Harmon, TEDx Speaker, Artist, and Author of So Many Animals and Paint & Thread
“Thank you, Jenn, for writing such an honest, refreshing look at how we learn to dance in the first place, that we are NOT locked into that stance and, showing us how to find the dance that is truly ours.”
~Teri Kingston, TEDx Speaker, Coach and Author of Get Ready for TED When TED is Ready for You
“So i started reading this book thinking i’ve not read a book in awhile it will take me forever and I read it 3 times. I laughed I related so deeply to the author. She tells it in away you can understand and explains it simply. She doesn't act like she knows how your feeling but she emphasizes with the reader and even funny just a little joke had me lmfao. So my hats of to you Jenn you did an amazing job keep up the great work you've given me so much to be hopeful for. So pick up a copy and read ladies probably wouldn't hurt if few men read it too.”
~Lisa Pierce, Buisness Owner and Die Hard Speak Honest fan
“I love how Jenn infuses her own personality and helps us to picture Attachment Styles as dances. Something I can picture and will never forget. Thank you, Jenn, for being courageous enough to share your past and what you have learned so that we can all better our lives through more fulfilling relationships too.”
~Kimberly Brock, Business Coach & Host of the She’s Just Getting Started Podcast
“This is not your typical self-help book. It is incredibly conversational, engaging, and 100% relatable. I guarantee you will have that moment of "Hey! That's me!" or "I've soooo been there!" Jenn writes this book as if she's talking to a friend - because she is. She's talking to YOU. Get ready to look in the mirror and say "I see you" in a way you never thought possible.”
~Amanda Richardson, Co-Founder of Where in the Park
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jenn Noble is a TEDx speaker, Professional Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation (ICF), founder of Speak Honest, and host of the Speak Honest Podcast, where she helps women heal their Attachment Stance and stop doing dumb sh*t in the name of love.
Through her signature blend of science, storytelling, and straight talk, Jenn teaches women how to identify their patterns, understand their nervous systems, and finally feel safe enough to be their authentic selves in relationships.
She’s the author of Dance of Attachment: Why Smart Women Do Dumb Sh*t in Relationships and How to Break the Pattern, a powerful guide that helps women reconnect with their needs, regulate their emotions, and build secure, connected love that lasts.
Jenn’s approach combines advanced training in Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Compassionate Inquiry (CI) with Dr. Gabor Maté, and Somatic Attachment Therapy (SAT) with Dr. Scott Lyons and Dr. Peter Levine. She also holds degrees in Psychology, Communication Studies, and Social Justice, grounding her work in both research and real-life experience.
Whether she’s coaching, speaking on stage, or podcasting from her home studio, Jenn’s mission is the same: to help women stop overthinking, start feeling, and finally create relationships that feel like home.