Why Do We Push Love Away?
Ever catch yourself dismissing compliments or pushing away love, even when deep down, you crave it? 🙋♀️ It's like you want the affection, but when it comes, you’re like, “Nah, I’m good!” So, what’s that about? Let’s dive into why so many of us struggle to receive the love we deserve and how you can change that for good!
The Core of It: Attachment Wounds, Ouch!
At the heart of this push-pull dynamic is something called attachment wounds (sounds intense, right? 😬). These are little emotional scars we collect over time that make us question our self-worth and our ability to trust others. Maybe at some point in your life, you learned to build walls instead of bridges, and now that’s how you navigate love—by keeping it at a distance.
But here’s the deal: recognizing these wounds is the first step toward healing them. You can totally reboot your relationship (and no, it’s not about changing your partner—this one’s all about YOU).
Why This Works: Rewiring Your Brain 🧠
We’re all about neuroplasticity here! Basically, your brain has created certain pathways (think of them as well-worn roads) that make rejecting love feel natural. The good news? You can rewire those brain pathways and start to embrace love and compliments, even if it feels a bit uncomfortable at first. It’s like learning a new dance—awkward at the beginning but so fun once you get the hang of it! 💃
What It Feels Like: Awkward but Empowering
Let’s be real—when you first start practicing this, it might feel... weird. Imagine someone tells you, “You look amazing today!” and instead of your usual “Yeah, right” response, you say “Thank you!” without cringing. It’s gonna feel a little awkward, but also empowering. 🎉 Over time, you’ll notice that you start to believe those compliments. You’ll go from brushing them off to soaking them in like a sponge. 🧽✨
The Benefits: Hello, Self-Worth! 👋
Once you get into the habit of receiving love (instead of deflecting it like Wonder Woman with her bracelets 🛡️), you’ll notice a major shift in your confidence and self-worth. You’ll start feeling more connected, not just with your partner, but with yourself. And trust me, the people who care about you will notice the difference too. When you allow love in, you’re giving them the gift of loving you fully.
Conclusion: Time to Try It!
So, why not give it a go? The next time someone offers you a kind word or affection, pause. Instead of pushing it away, accept it with an open heart. You might feel a bit vulnerable, but that’s okay—it’s part of the process. And before you know it, receiving love will feel as natural as giving it. 🌟
