Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want
Do you ever feel like you’re living on autopilot? Checking off to-do lists, meeting expectations, and doing all the things you should do—but somewhere along the way, forgetting what you actually want?
If that hits close to home, you’re not alone. So many of us are wired to focus on productivity, perfection, or pleasing others. But what if you pressed pause on the “shoulds” and asked yourself: What do I really, really want? Let’s dig into this idea and how you can start exploring your own needs, wants, and desires.
The Main Concept: Tuning Into Your True Desires
At its core, this is about one simple but powerful practice: asking yourself, “What do I want?” Not what you should want, or what others expect, but what feels good and fulfilling to you.
We often confuse productivity with purpose, thinking the more we do, the better we’ll feel. But here’s the secret: true joy comes when you honor your own desires and let go of the endless cycle of pleasing others or checking things off a list.
Why It Works
This concept works because it brings you back to yourself. Instead of living in reaction mode—just going through the motions—you become intentional. When you know what you truly want, you can align your actions with your values and create a life that feels authentic and satisfying.
It’s not about ignoring responsibilities but about approaching them from a place of choice, not obligation. That shift makes all the difference.
What to Expect When You Start
Here’s the honest truth: this process might feel awkward at first. You might find yourself staring at a sink full of dishes and thinking, “Do I want to clean this right now?” And guess what? Sometimes the answer is “Nope!”
You might also notice guilt creeping in. That’s totally normal. Years of “shoulds” don’t just disappear overnight. But the more you practice, the more you’ll notice a new kind of freedom—a lightness in choosing what truly serves you in the moment.
The Benefits
Clarity: You’ll begin to understand yourself on a deeper level, uncovering what truly lights you up.
Freedom: Breaking free from the “shoulds” creates space for joy and authenticity.
Confidence: Trusting your decisions strengthens your self-worth.
Better Boundaries: Knowing what you want helps you say no to what doesn’t align.
More Joy: When your actions match your desires, life feels more exciting and fulfilling.
Ready to Try It?
Here’s your challenge: For the next week, practice pausing before you take action and ask yourself, “What do I want to do right now?” Whether it’s cleaning the kitchen, reading a book, or saying yes (or no!) to plans—check in with yourself first.
And remember, it’s okay to experiment. You don’t have to get it “right.” This is about discovery, joy, and maybe even indulging in a little whimsy along the way. You might be surprised at how empowering it feels to let go of the “shoulds” and embrace your wants.
So, tell me... What do you really, really want? 💛
